Once upon a time there was a busy working mom and a snowstorm. She braved the weather to meet with her boss in the morning and attend meetings, all while emails were coming in – “Ding,” “Ding,” “Ding…” It was a tough day – school closed and the kids were too excited to nap. She multitasked – took calls, sent emails, called the driveway plower, worked on a presentation, read emails, wrote emails, bathed the kids, made dinner, read books, sat with child on the nebulizer machine, did dishes, folded laundry, worked more on the presentation, reviewed a budget… until working dad come home….
He greets her with the following: “We’re the only house in the neighborhood that doesn’t have a plowed driveway.”
From here this working mom had four potential responses:
A) Scream at him: “I can’t believe you’re putting this on me! Don’t blame me for the plower not showing up!”
B) Internalize it: say nothing and resent how he doesn’t understand anything
C) Take a passive aggressive approach: “Oh, I didn’t notice”
D) Give him a “Do-Over:” “Honey, I know that’s not how you want to greet me after such a difficult day. This is the part where you give me a loving “Honey, I’m home and lets buy a snow blower!”’
She chose Option D and avoided a ton of drama. Next time you find yourself on the verge, stop yourself and try offering your other half a Do-Over.
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